...no, you are wrong!

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Marriages, friendships, and business relationships are destroyed due to men and women not understanding the differences that make us unique. In our pride we usually think that we are shining example of what is right and we expect everyone to act as we do and like what we like, but this is fantasy, not fact.

One man said, "I know I'm not ever going to understand women. I'll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax, pour it onto your leg, rip the hair out by the root, and still be afraid of a spider." HAHAHAHA! Great!!:-)

Let's look at some other ways men and women are different from each other:

Women offer unsolicited advice and give direction, but men usually don't take advice very well. The woman thinks she is just trying to help, but the man thinks she doesn't trust him to make the right decision.

When a woman disagrees with a man he takes it as disapproval and it ignites his defenses. Men only want advice after they have done everything then can do. Advice given too soon or too often causes him to lose his sense of power. He may become lazy or insecure.

Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed. Women are motivated when they feel cherished.

Men are visual creatures; once an image is in their head, it's hard to get it out. Women are more inclined to remember emotions or how something made them feel.

Men tend to go into their cave and want to think about what is bothering them, but women want to talk about what's bothering them. When a man and woman have had a problem and the man is ready to reconnect, the woman waits for him to initiate a conversation about what upset him. However, he doesn't need to talk about his upset feelings because he is no longer upset. He wants to forget it and move on, she wants to talk about it and make a list of ways they can avoid having it happen again.

In one survey, more than 80% of men, four out of five, said that in a conflict they were likely to feel disrespected. Women, on the other hand, would feel unloved.

Because a woman's vocal cords are shorter than a man's, she can actually speak with less effort than he can. Shorter vocal cords not only cause a woman's voice to be more high pitched, but also require less air to become agitated, making it possible for her to talk more with less energy expended.

Communication experts say that the average woman speaks more than 25,000 words a day while the average man speaks only a little over 10,000. One business executive said, "The problem is, that by the time I get home from work I have already spoken my 10,000 and my wife hasn't even gotten started."

Men are simple... women are not simple and they always assume that men are just as complicated and intricate as they are. The whole point is that guys don't think deeply all the time like women do. See?! That's why women are not simple, because they tend to think deeply! But men are just what they appear to be.

Women want to be loved, respected, valued, complimented, listened to, trusted and sometimes, just to be held. Men want tickets for the World Series! HAHAHAHA! That's crazy and funny!

Women want affection, men want sex.

Most women cry an average of five times per month. Women are simply more emotional than men. Men are very logical.

Understanding does make all the difference in the world. Read a couple of good books on the differences between men and women and also one on the differences in personalities. It will give you insight and understanding that can prevent thousands of arguments and misunderstanding.

IMPORTANT!

The information that was used in these two posts was taken from books that belong to Joyce Meyer, Emerson Eggerichs, Jane Everhart and Shaunti Feldhahn.

Hope you took some notes in your mind and

found some information useful!:-)

Selenity ✿ܓ

...becoming one!

The minute two people marry, they are legally joined together. Experientially, though, they do not immediately "become one" when they say, "I do"; they simply begin the process of becoming one. As the process works itself out, each partner should hold marriage in honor and esteem the relationship as worthy and precious. They should treat each other as being very valuable.

There is a three-step progression that demonstrates how to become one: (1) Leave. Sometimes a wife clings excessively to her mother and her mother's opinions about she ought to do, or a husband runs to his father for advice, when the couple should be trusting and leaning on each other. If two people are married but have not left home (both physically and mentally), they need to do so. (2) Cleave. In practical terms, the word cleave means to stick to each other like glue. (3) Become one. Becoming one means the complete union of body, soul, and spirit - and again, this takes time.

The most difficult part of the "becoming one" process is usually the uniting of two souls - the joining of two minds, wills, and sets of emotions. Most of marital problems in the area of the soul result from strife over lack of communication, sexual misunderstanding, money, goals, and the disciplining of children. If each marriage partner is willing to be brought into agreement with the other, they no longer try to force each other to be someone they are not, but realize they need each other to be exactly who God created them to be. They no longer pick on each other's weaknesses. Instead, they partake of their strengths, they enjoy one another, and they enjoy the process of becoming one.

The Differences between Men and Women - and

Weakness Has Nothing to Do with It

God made men and women to be different in many different ways, but muscle mass is just one of those differences. Though men are usually physically stronger than women, this fact certainly does not make women "the weaker sex". It should not apply to our intelligence or our emotions and we should not allow it to! The differences aren't better or worse, they're just different; once we accept those differences, we can understand and appreciate what each of our genders offers.

Let's start with physical differences. Women's hearts beat faster. Men's brains are larger but women's brains contain more neurons. HAHAHA! Love this:-) Depending in whether you're studying the brain of man or a woman, different areas of the brain will light up in response to identical tasks. Even the rate at which we visibly age is seen differently in men and women.

In his best-selling book, Love and Respect, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs points out that the obvious differences found in men and women can be seen in something simple as looking into a closet. Eggerichs writes about a couple getting dressed in the day:

She says, "I have nothing to wear." (She means, she has nothing new.)

He says, "I have nothing to wear." (He means, he has nothing clean.)

HAHAHAHAHA! This one made me laugh!

Cool difference and interesting one!:-)

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P.S.: Have to gather the other stuff and to make the conclusions:-), so making it shorter...

Hope you've liked the post on the never ending topic!:-)

Selenity ✿ܓ