Showing posts with label becoming one. Show all posts
Showing posts with label becoming one. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

...becoming one!



The minute two people marry, they are legally joined together. Experientially, though, they do not immediately "become one" when they say, "I do"; they simply begin the process of becoming one. As the process works itself out, each partner should hold marriage in honor and esteem the relationship as worthy and precious. They should treat each other as being very valuable.

There is a three-step progression that demonstrates how to become one: (1) Leave. Sometimes a wife clings excessively to her mother and her mother's opinions about she ought to do, or a husband runs to his father for advice, when the couple should be trusting and leaning on each other. If two people are married but have not left home (both physically and mentally), they need to do so. (2) Cleave. In practical terms, the word cleave means to stick to each other like glue. (3) Become one. Becoming one means the complete union of body, soul, and spirit - and again, this takes time.

The most difficult part of the "becoming one" process is usually the uniting of two souls - the joining of two minds, wills, and sets of emotions. Most of marital problems in the area of the soul result from strife over lack of communication, sexual misunderstanding, money, goals, and the disciplining of children. If each marriage partner is willing to be brought into agreement with the other, they no longer try to force each other to be someone they are not, but realize they need each other to be exactly who God created them to be. They no longer pick on each other's weaknesses. Instead, they partake of their strengths, they enjoy one another, and they enjoy the process of becoming one.


The Differences between Men and Women - and
Weakness Has Nothing to Do with It

God made men and women to be different in many different ways, but muscle mass is just one of those differences. Though men are usually physically stronger than women, this fact certainly does not make women "the weaker sex". It should not apply to our intelligence or our emotions and we should not allow it to! The differences aren't better or worse, they're just different; once we accept those differences, we can understand and appreciate what each of our genders offers.

Let's start with physical differences. Women's hearts beat faster. Men's brains are larger but women's brains contain more neurons. HAHAHA! Love this:-) Depending in whether you're studying the brain of man or a woman, different areas of the brain will light up in response to identical tasks. Even the rate at which we visibly age is seen differently in men and women.

In his best-selling book, Love and Respect, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs points out that the obvious differences found in men and women can be seen in something simple as looking into a closet. Eggerichs writes about a couple getting dressed in the day:


She says, "I have nothing to wear." (She means, she has nothing new.)
He says, "I have nothing to wear." (He means, he has nothing clean.)

HAHAHAHAHA! This one made me laugh!
Cool difference and interesting one!:-)




TO BE CONTINUED... link
P.S.: Have to gather the other stuff and to make the conclusions:-), so making it shorter...
Hope you've liked the post on the never ending topic!:-)
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